This is an important conversation, so it’s critical that you both have time to actually .If you want to have the DTR conversation, tell your partner “Hey, I’d like to talk with you about us and our relationship, figure out where we’re going and what this all means. ” Pick a day when you’re not going to have any commitments, deadlines or responsibilities that are going to cut into your time together; you want to be able to have the talk when you’re both relaxed.well, they’re showing you that they are less concerned with how feel and more about getting the “right” answer from you.
Sometimes the schedules of our day to day lives mean that we can’t see people as often as we’d like.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re not in contact with them.
Similarly, a couple that only sees each other in short, intense bursts in between long stretches of non-contact (long-distance relationships and out-of-town hook-ups, for example) is probably going to want to have the DTR sooner – the intensity of that time together, coupled with the length of time spent when you together tends to necessitate making sure everyone is on the same page.
To give a personal example: my wife and I had our DTR conversation the third time she came to visit…
This is quite possibly the , most counterproductive way to negotiate something as important as the potential future of your relationship together.