These “what-ifs” only become backburners if you actually reach out to them.
Psychology of dating down
“Now your quality of alternatives has shrunk just a bit.
There have never been more experts with more theories about what might make two perfect strangers perfect for each other.
without the need for direct interaction with others,” he writes.
The relative privacy of Facebook makes it easier to keep in minimal contact with backburners.
A recent study published in dubs these interactions “backburner relationships." A backburner, as defined by the study, is “a person to whom one is not presently committed, and with whom one maintains some degree of communication, in order to keep or establish the possibility of future romantic and/or sexual involvement.”The lead study author, Jayson Dibble, an assistant professor of communication at Hope College, told me, “What originally inspired me to think about this is when you meet somebody at a club and trade numbers, you might go through your contacts [later] and say ‘Oh I remember that guy. It was inspired by my old days in grad school.”“When you were meeting everybody at the club?