In the course of our courtship I only posted one photo of the two of us and tagged him just a few other times. It wasn’t really his “thing,” so what did I have to worry about?
Aside from social media stalking, many ex-couples continue to actually communicate—trying to stay friends. The truth is, staying friends after a breakup doesn’t often heal wounds; most of the time it prolongs hurt through a low-quality friendship.
According to research, exes who remain friends tend to have less emotionally supportive and less trusting friendships.
We weren’t trying to be friends; I didn’t have to pretend I could handle that or wonder what it meant. Online dating—and connecting deeply with people you never would have met otherwise—makes this pretty easy to do.
When I was in the thick of it, I felt resentful and wounded when my ex didn’t end up contacting me.
You might remember when Carrie Bradshaw, Manhattan’s Cosmo-drinking gal from ‘Sex and the City’, was broken up with on a Post-It note.