When I plunged into the dating scene after getting out of a long-term relationship, my immediate inclination was to "play" extrovert by setting up numerous dates in a week, to give everyone a chance, to give those I was on the fence about a second chance, and to stay out well past my bedtime, even if I felt like I was losing steam.
It took only a few weeks of this before I realized that dating was taking its toll and that I was becoming bad at it — failing to respond to texts and messages in a timely manner, rushing through dates with people I felt little connection with and, eventually finding myself leaving all of my dates with a nagging desire for the solace of my quiet apartment.
Introverts are extremely good listeners and can offer advice that is genuine and sincere.
Susan Cain, author of , said that “Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality over quantity.”4. I went on a few dates with someone I was intensely attracted to and with whom I had great chemistry, but upon his admission after the fifth date that he wasn’t a good communicator I realized it probably wasn’t the best fit for me.
Had I been honest with myself and with him that communication was so fundamental to me, we could’ve saved ourselves some time.
Keep in mind that whoever is worth your time and getting to know will take relish in peeling back those layers to tap into your rich inner landscape.
And don’t feel the need to play extrovert just to fit in.2.
That was when I realized that I was doing it all wrong, that I was tapping out and turning inward because I was jogging at an extrovert’s pace, even though I'm an introvert.