However, most of the following also applies to men who find themselves in this position.) Rona Subotnik illuminates a list of paradoxical realities that you may find yourself living with as the other woman.
You know you are participating in something that is potentially damaging to many people and that there could be repercussions for yourself.
You maintain the sense of safety by trying not to think about these realities.
Participating in an affair necessitates entering an altered state of consciousness where only part of reality can be processed, the part that has to do with pleasure.
It’s like being in a trance, complete with it’s own logic.
Self-righteous, yet guilty You tell yourself you deserve to be happy, that you are making him happy.