I know this nice restaurant called the Black Sheep.” (I love French food.) Instinctively, I knew that he was trying to cheer me up, and I made sure to mention how I appreciated his willingness to drive through horrendous Little India peak hour traffic to get to the restaurant.
In addition, Andrew is a steady sort who doesn’t like to change plans (especially not at the last minute), so I was really touched by his spontaneity and how he just wanted to make me happy.
” To my surprise, Andrew agreed to every single request! Heh, thanks dear.) Previously, when I was using “could you”, it was easier for him to say no and he did hem and haw about similar requests made using “could you”. However, one funny story that John Gray concocted was that of the knight in shining armour, who is all ready to rescue his damsel in distress.
“Just as he pulls out his sword, the princess cries, “Don’t use your sword, use this noose”. At the celebration dinner the knight feels he didn’t really do anything.
This time on his journey he hears another woman in distress.
As he rushes to her call, his depression lifts and he feels confident and alive. Then he remembers how he felt back in the days when he only carried a sword. He stayed in this new village and lived happily ever after.
I would make requests phrased as “Would you bring me out on a date? That, unfortunately, is the part that Andrew likes to stress to me nowadays. The beauty of Gray’s book is that it also helped me to understand that it’s okay to turn down certain requests at times (if it’s really beyond you physically), but the important part is you do it and of course, to still keep her satisfied while doing so.] 2.