Among the most surprising findings was this: nearly all of these "leavers" reported having positive experiences in youth group. "There are a lot more fun things to do at college than eat pizza." Good point.
Rather than directing the course of the relationship, God wants the couple to grow and learn how to make a commitment.
Once they've done that, God increases his sustaining presence.
This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.
German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.
A few years ago I volunteered at an event put on by a national youth ministry. We bobbed for apples, captured flags, and raced eggs across the floor using only our noses.