Because of this tendency, our relationships pose a difficult challenge for us.
When we enter a relationship, we are expected to be able to give up our self-centered ways and treat our partner’s interests as equally important as our own.
Although the nice-guy/borderline union in theory should work, in reality it is guaranteed to fail. Either the nice-guy type will finally have a momentary lapse of selfishness, which she will experience as a major betrayal, or she will become so overwhelmed by her suspicious nature that that she will convince herself that he has betrayed her.
Either way, without an ironclad guarantee that she cannot be hurt, she will be unwilling to trust him again.
In Part 1 we explored the personality type associated with traits of borderline personality disorder, or BPD, and the unusual pattern of Dr. Hyde transformation that so many of these women go through when they enter a romantic relationship.