"One single mom wrote to say that we could stay with her, and another offered clothes," Zola remembers.
But the real boon was when a mom forwarded Zola's resume to an architectural firm, which hired her for her current job. Amy Anderson, of Seattle, says that when she split with the father of her daughter, Hailey, soon after Hailey's first birthday, she had to borrow money from her family to stay afloat.
Day-to-day duties for a solo parent are no different than they are for a married one: coping with sleeplessness, finding child care, paying bills. Here are some of the biggest worries of new single moms, and a few words of wisdom.
One caveat: Statistics don't tell how many single moms are with a partner (and choosing not to get married), how many live with family (so they have some help around), and how many are truly alone.
But the point is, there are a lot of single moms out there. Even so, single mothers agree that even when overwhelmed, there's usually a way to work out problems.
After a time, I got back on my feet and ventured out. A lot more single moms than I had ever noticed before. It's an all-time high -- and it's not due to teen moms (teen motherhood is at its lowest rate in 65 years).
Births to unmarried women ages 25 to 29 are up 30 percent since 1991; births to unmarried women ages 30 to 44 are up 17 percent.
"Forget long-term planning or strategy during those first sleep-deprived weeks," says Leah Klungness, a psychologist in New York City and coauthor of (Adams).